Reimagining our modern narratives

the full archive of my writing

Welcome to becoming | more myself where I rewrite modern narratives around the ways we live, work, and play.

I write to reimagine what it means to become more human, to live a meaningful life and to grapple with what human flourishing means in the 21st century. I explore themes centered around finding peace in our inner world and actualizing our full expression in our outer world.

My intention is to inspire conversations around how to find our way towards a life that overflows with unbridled curiosity, wonder, and agency. To flourish is to be deeply connected with our intuition and driven by cleanly fueled ambition in pursuit of actualizing our fullest self-expression. This is my effort in dreaming up that world with you and inviting us each to come home to ourselves.

Here’s the full archive of my writing to date:

introspection, ambition, and agency

essays on becoming more ourselves

• A lifetime of should-ing: the case for an existential crisis

• What fuels your ambition?: on the transition to clean fuel

• You won't grind your way to aliveness: a lesson in following our intuition

• On giving up control: cultivating self-trust and de-optimizing our lives

• Thank you for triggering me: shining a light on the ways we're not free

• Life is a series of experiments: it ebbs and flows and comes and goes

• Dancing with our shadows: awakening the unconscious

• Role playing your way to a new identity: alter egos, experimentation, and learning curves

• The mourning of a new dawn: on dancing with joy and the whispers of grief

• Slowing down to speed up: making way for the consequential

• Trading goal setting for identity aligning: take a stand for your identity

• Atlas for the inward bound: a Christmas gift and reflections on an annual tradition

• Introspection through written word: a collection of essays for turning inward

Human Aigency

a series investigating human agency and finding our humanity in the age of AI

• Human AIgency: on becoming more human in the age of AI: and an update on this newsletter

• Conversations with our unconscious: using AI to make sense of our dreams

flourishing in the 21st century

experiments in connecting with our intuition and coming home to ourselves

• Grappling with the big questions: cultures of agency, flourishing communities & institutions, AI & self-expression

• Rest is for the dead and other misconceptions about worthiness: a prelude to the tech sabbath

• Renegotiating our relationship with technology: on returning back to ourselves

• Going news sober: on unplugging from the news cycle in pursuit of connection

• In pursuit of our inhibitions: the courage to live in our (sober) truth

• Nervous System Mastery: the art of interoception: a pre-requisite to being human

• A Call to Eudaimonia: experimenting our way towards flourishing in the 21st century

• Know Thyself: AI & the quest towards our truth

• Our modern (content) diet: food for thought

relationships, partnerships, and communities

essays on love, friendships, and being seen

• Finding your Aristotelian friends: beyond platonic friendships

• The annual partnership retreat: a weekend that makes the heart grow fonder

reflections on coming alive

essays on being moved by the life we have the privilege to live

• Speedrunning aliveness: lessons from the natural world

• I hate cold water and other reasons why I run into the sea: the case for starting the month with a hard thing

• Year of doing the damn thing: on riding the new year energy

• 26.2 miles of solitude and aliveness: reflections on avoidance, meaning, and meeting myself

• Finding peace in 10 days of silence: surrendering to equanimity

• Hard things, good people: life on the edge

• Come alive in Banff National Park: a photo essay itinerary of sorts

modern work & self-expression

a collection of notes on our relationship with work, the state of modern work, and self-expression

• Finding our good work in the marble: redefining work and giving voice to our intuition

• Introducing Work & Self-Expression: Cissy’s sabbatical field notes

• Who we are without work: an exploration on identity

• Some practical thoughts on diversifying our identity: the search for meaning beyond work

• The art of self-expression: surrendering to your game

• How to sabbatical: the inner workings of the in between

• 6 months of surrendering to the unknown: reflections on the four stages of sabbaticaling

• Knowledge work as an emotional act: an integrated approach to emotions, work, and productivity

• Emotions in motion: a tactical guide to embracing your emotions while working

cultural identities and family scripts

essays on reclaiming our cultural shadows, bridging our identity between two worlds, and co-creating new dynamics with our family

• May I be excused from these old family dynamics?: home for the holidays

• Finding home between two worlds: growing up yellow in a black and white world

• The unraveling of old family scripts: on breaking generational cycles

• How to travel with your parents and not lose your shit: a guide to surviving (and thriving on) your next family trip

  Elevating AAPI voices: a compilation of essays & a directory of writers

• The power of representation: you can't be what you can't see

self musings

occasional life updates

• Some life updates: studying the science of flourishing and building a modern town square

• Monthly Musings: March edition: a 3-day meditation retreat, tech sabbaths, and farmers markets

• More Myself is getting a glow up: Introducing A Call to Eudaimonia and I’m writing a book (!)

• 49 feelings of San Francisco: on stumbling upon myself in San Francisco

• Annual recalibration: 2023 edition: looking back to propel forward (2022 edition)

I’m grateful to have you here. If we haven’t had a chance to connect, I’d love to hear from you — introduce yourself and say hello in the comments :) You can also find me on Twitter.